I was reading an article today on psychologytoday.com about not allowing yourself to get worked up. It showed up in my search results on Google. Here’s a key takeaway from that article, “What circumstances in your life cause you to act dramatically, rushing around and telling others how “totally stressed out” you are? Does it really need to be that way? What if it didn’t need to be that way at all? What if “stress management” was actually ridiculously easy? What if all you needed to do to stop the madness, was to just decide to slow down and calmly do whatever it is that you need to do?” [1]

Whatever is bothering you take a deep breath. We used to grow up being told to scream in a pillow if we ever needed to let out frustrations in life. But really? How can we build better habits around our freedom to express ourselves however brief let’s call them our moments of outburst. Like the beginning of a fight or a conversation that gets louder and louder eventually there may be no one to calm you down but yourself. So how do we empower ourselves instead of disempower ourselves, lose face, or worse yet get ghosted whatever that new social reaction is called where people stop replying. It’s not your fault. One day you’ll understand peace and progress and trauma in a way that you learn to see all as equal victims or people who have struggled that you don’t take out your grievances on others or burst from the seams like hulk.

Steps to Empowerment:

(1) Be grateful for people.

(2) Don’t blame play victim.

(3) Be patient & considerate.

(4) Go out of your way to reach out.

(5) Keep the conversation positive.

(6) Don’t engage in fights on the road or life.

(7) Rise above like a yoga pro strong.

Reference:

[1] https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/prescriptions-for-life/201205/stress-is-a-choice-how-to-give-up-getting-worked-up?amp