There’s a famous book called “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff” by Richard Carlson, which talks about the keeping the little things from taking over your life. So what does that mean in present day? Present day is not the zoo of controversy that you may feel things are, more are actually present and able to carry conversations without the inappropriate you would be surprised, how maturity looks on people, given the times. What happens when people are supportive and feel more similar than they are different, and what creates for that type of atmosphere, a common code or understanding, or a common recognition of valuing the presence of one another, it seems like recognition and respect continues to be the order in which all else follows, psychologically. Sure we can bottle up those micocosms of conspiracy theories, but what does that do to our health to create and hold beliefs persecutorial toward ideas and identities in life, who’s fault is that the people who carry those thoughts and beliefs or the fault of those who fail to recognize or see life in that way. I can see a growing openness to different ways of thinking, just watching Youtube self-help videos, and Im sure that’s how people feel about Ted Talks, it’s interesting to hear what people have to say, and what stories they have to share about life, and what brought them to this place in life or public speaking and helping others. But how do we help ourselves?

Help yourself to take on a little less in life that you think you need to. Help yourself to care willingly without fear of repercussion. Dedicate time to continued study of things you know less about. Open yourself up to the possibilities in life, even the negative ones that people fear or see. In the end it’s you that has to being yourself back to normal, so practice time management, it’s not possible to talk in therapy for more than an hour so what does that tell you about opening up, that is should be in private, with a doctor, and guided conversation or supported conversations in life when talking about life and yourself and your feelings, which tells you that its such a complicated route in life to open up, explains why most people are not comfortable talking about their mental and physical reactions in life, which are mental health issues, having more control over what you think and how you feel, mindfulness.

What is mindfulness? It’s “having conscious awareness, and awareness achieved by focus on the present moment and calmly accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations.” [1] Mindfulness is considered a “therapeutic” technique, exactly how is it taught? Through meditation, being quiet, then what do we do with everything else that we are feeling or thinking, bottle up, eventually we have to uncover what is held within, and if you bottle up, its bound to come out at some point, so start somewhere, would be my advice, The longer you bottle up and suppress how youre feeling or thinking, the less comfortable you will be in the present moment, so add “writing” and “thinking” to your mindfulness practice, putting pen to paper what you are thinking, and separating what you think when being quiet and trying to keep still, versus what comes out of you in motion upon being awake is different than what you hear just sitting alone inside your body. Im a writer trust me I know, write!

So what is the small stuff when it comes to “mindfulness” “bottling up” and “psychology” its learning to make choices in life, and being able to consciously determine what to say and what not to say, its have a filter, so when it comes to “mindfulness” your physical reactions are what people mean to keep quiet and to not talk about, and what you think “mindfully” should come out with respect to anothers mind and their physical reactions to you, and bottling up (the “small stuff”) is about what to say what not to say and why, who does it concern, what is obvious, what has changed, these are things we don’t talk about maybe why things are underappreciated, not mentioned, because it would be considered rude to talk about entertainment developments and technology with excitement or enthusiasm if you see too excited or enthusiastic about things that are not by your background and education, it will look like you are excited about things that are not real, or someone who thinks capable of “coding” because in “tech” they specialize in code, therefore being a law student the criticism will be “what laws do you know” and respect of you will be by what laws you know and apply to your life and whether as known people can apply laws to your life, or the things that you say to test your grounded knowledge in what other people are thinking or their rational for treatment of you, and this is how people can be condescending toward you, having read what you are about, and knowing what they know, anyone can apply anything to you as a person, and that’s where we are at with technology, unlicensed people with specialized knowledge form the internet that they are capable of applying to people like the limitations of psychiatry and psychology, it causes people to read the plain terms and apply the plain terms to people by what they hear and that can do society a disservice when people are walking around thinking that they are a psychiatrist or a therapist or a psychologist thinking that they are smarter than they are or thinking that they are smarter than others, and this is how people can be treated as less than based on what people read online, a false confidence, in the age of technology is the biggest threat to social wellness not especially professionals who have their own knowledge and experiences to boost confidence by, whereas the average person, only feels like them, knows what they know, and has the same access to all the same information online as everyone else, therefore how is the difference in confidence made in life, what types of information open doors for people mentally, is it medical information, social information, technology information, biographies, school work, assignments, continued education, where does the information come from that decisions and choices are based to make a person successful? Is it information that makes people feel successful, or is it simply feeling good that makes people successful? Therefore if it’s the type and kind of information that makes people feel good? Then where should that information come from and does a Masters in Laws and ¾ a JD and a BA cum laude suffice to write and create information based on my own physical and mental reactions in life, is that “schizophrenia?”

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[1] https://languages.oup.com/google-dictionary-en/

Published 04-11-23