Have you ever found yourself out of the loop, and ever wondered what other people are feeling so good about, its called the in-group [1], which is a “social identity theory … [that examines] an individuals self-concept acquired from their membership in relevant social groups.”[2] I wrote a research proposal once and submitted to my college CU Boulder after the series of school shootings and crimes occurring, I wanted to know why now, and what could be done to prevent these shootings, and knew that I was someone who if known would be liked, and hoped to distract others from the purpose of causing harm to others, if only everyone was on board in a different way, made to feel good by things, not resistant to change or helping others on the basis of how scary the times are or how powerless anyone seemed to feel, get moving again, and be able to help eachother without letting fear sink in. Battling your fears is not a one person job it’s a team effort to make things better overall, improve the quality of life.

Blogging is a good example, especially social media, for how when people know eachother, they can always seem to make the other feel better, that’s getting to know others, feeling a sense of peace and comfort in knowing people, like your Facebook friends, or your following on social media, its an outlet or a perspective to hear from, aside from your own lives to follow. We all hope that those inputs help us to live better lives, make wiser decisions, and hopefully find some clarity when things seem obtuse or too difficult to follow, which explains me, observing, analyzing, talking about managing my own data, and how I present online, able to explain my fears, things I went through, and how I made my life better, which I’m sure many people have to go through in life, dilemmas, stress, pain, suffering, how to live again is hard.

When people know each other they are made to feel good about themselves, and also how they see themselves in relation to the rest of the world all together. With social media, and lifestyle bloggers it gives the false impression of people feeling good based on what they see, which is not always the case, sometimes a feeling can be provided, hence all the simplicity and perfection when going about presenting yourself online, in relation to others you might see. There’s definitely a code of pride, of people feeling good about themselves, and showing their best, that makes sense, and that’s a feeling that people want to be apart of, the feel good aspects of what is read or seen, and also learn how to attain that for themselves.

I’ve been working more towards creating more blogging tips posts, and continue learning how to build a blog and provide tutorials but I’ve been so delayed and busy with my mental health and accommodating new diagnosis and others papers that I want to write for #scotus, that I haven’t had time to focus on the simple stuff, just plain blogging, which most are able to get to, I have had to go through another string of responsibilities in life, just to speak freely online.

Feeling wise, it’s a dynamic that encompasses how you are made to feel, my blog is different in that there is no in-group, my goal like the goal of many others is to create a feeling that most can relate to, and upon witnessing or haring from feel apart of. I’m a good example of someone who just blogs, I don’t have a lifestyle, I don’t have expensive things, jewelry, or a house to photo and share my life with others, you have to feel accepted and apart of in order to let other people in your lives, otherwise you keep to yourself. So blogging is a way for me to connect with others, that doesn’t require me bringing people into my life in an intimate way. Blogging is a good distance between me and other people and allows me to still be human apart of.

I think with a life there are pictures to take, places to go, experiences to have, people to meet, representations to be made, and I’m sorry I don’t have that kind of life, I don’t have connections and people to introduce you to, I only have myself. I’m sorry that I don’t have a bustling social life or career path, to introduce you to a life or lifestyle for you to imitate or influence you in making decisions in your own life.

Its on a person to person basis what kind of life you are able to create for yourself. I think people who lead simple lives can relate to me, why I’m popular, and I don’t put pressure on image and over things you have in order to be a blogger, you just need to be able to write, and be educated and able to speak properly online on subjects no matter how challenging, have your own voice, which is hard for most people to find for themselves.

I think I’m the kind of person, who likes to talk to make things better. It’s not in my best interests to talk to make things worse. I’m the kind of person when I put the effort in things work out for me and things feel better, not one to put feelings off to last minute or bottle up, and if was not something I was thinking about, or made to be bothered by then like most people will become upset to things that are not of issue, or delaying me, or holding me back in life, or seeking to make me talk about things or people or issues, that I don’t have in life. That’s not what my blog is for, I don’t need any help with material, I don’t get writers block. It’s all a matter of whether I’m thinking about my blog, and creating in my mind, ideas to write about. And sometimes I just need rest, I never have nothing to say, I always have something to say.

How to self-identify matters. [2] Key characteristics of self-identification are: “Personality traits, abilities, likes and dislikes, your belief system or moral code, and the things that motivate you.” I think sharing how I feel or what is important to me was helpful for others to hear, based on what their needs are see how complicated and trying it is to just help and especially with ongoing incidences, you can run out of steam and feel pain and just know that that is a normal fact about advocacy, fighting gun violence or abuse or defamation is not an easy lesson in life, or easy to explain, and is hard to understand, like most things especially death dying addiction and suicide, also tough subjects that rip your emotions apart and make everyone feel like crap inside, it’s the problems of others sometimes that causes people to be resentful toward those who don’t feel good. You need no permissions in life to feel good. Just because I’m popular does not mean I need to be feeling good and push myself when I’m sick and get worse, there are a ton of providers and writers online to read from, I’m just one example, of a writer. So that’s the resentment you face with defamation, people think they don’t feel good because there is something wrong with you or defective and secret about you to not feel good about, I assure you if there was anything schizophrenic about me, or wrong, I would be sued or put in jail and would be dead by suicide, but because those things were not true Im still alive. So really question when you don’t feel good, why you don’t feel good, when you don’t feel good, chances are no in-group feels good, then its up to you to feel good, and to help make any in-group feel better, that’s how the power is sucked out of people who feel good, when everyone else is not feeling good, so life is a team sport if you want to create an in-group that’s a full time job to take care of others if you are popular, which is my life’s work, understanding people, talking care of others, figuring out problems, overcoming hurdles, and getting along with others, to me that’s heroic, to not get paid and to work so hard online building a blog.

No matter what I always do my best, even on bad days correct what’s going wrong, but I cant help everyone, especially not those who don’t respect me, I owe them nothing in life, they can help themselves, its not my job to waste my time energy and life, explaining to anyone what there is to like about me, if you go through life not liking people, then don’t read my blog if you are so smart about life philosophy wise that you had everything so figured out without knowing me. So that’s why negative voices are hurtful it’s because I was defamed that I have schizophrenia now, which are voices, not caused by any medication, still occurring off medication, and causes me physical pain and suffering, which is not fair to me to be faced with any negativity make believe or then real, is not my choice to talk about, everyone is responsible for their own voices in life, and voices are a product of what you read, know, and see, is what either creates a chaos within you, or a head trauma or auditory delusion of people talking to you, which can only be reversed through writing, and talking to yourself in your head, stops voices, that’s how I have been able to stop negative voices from causing me suicide in life. So when I say Im a self-help blogger, I literally mean help yourselves, if youre not feeling well. I really don’t have any rules, Im not a sexual person, I don’t have sex, I stopped all sexual activity and will only have sex if I date, and that ruined my love for Todd, which was later casted out to be inappropriate, so that’s me not letting him and whoever use my $400,000 top alexa blog campaign to do any of the work she is paid for, she can work off another in-group in that case. And not make fun of me, or shame me and trend what some pervert treated me as, object to hate or send negative voices to, therefore I don’t want sex from anyone, Im totally done if you are even wondering, but I am allowed to talk to people as human beings, theres no need for me to contact people if Im not feeling well, therefore the best way to try hard is online in a blog. That’s how I feel about voices rejecting me, it makes me not audition, not work, and not feel good, and that pisses me off, and makes me upset, and makes not want to blog or help anyone.

Reference:

[1] https://www.healthline.com/health/sense-of-self

[2] https://nuscimagazine.com/the-psychology-behind-trends/

[2] https://destinysodyssey.com/personal-development/self-development-2/self-concepts-self-constructs/self-identity/