When it’s time to think you’ll be glad you didn’t waste too much time stressing over ever micro detail, sometimes getting stuck in the details, we lose sight of the big picture. If you have something to say, think long and hard before you speak, even if the flow of things feels urgent, every step backwards, requires three steps forward, so how many times do you really want to relive the cycle of those feelings all over again, and in the end which feelings are you willing to let go of.

How to make things better? I think about this all the time when things get hard, what is that frustration, what causes us to long wind excuses upon excuses for how we feel and how little it makes sense to others upon listening. Its like talking to a wall sometimes, when what is going on with you, is not the same chaos going on for others. This is worth taking a step back. What does chaos mean? It could mean a mental health issue, it could mean a mental illness, it could be a provocative or bullying voice. There are a lot of things in life that hurt our feelings, in the end what will break you? Is it worth letting all of those little things break you down in life? So what to do. Find your center. In the mess of it all, get grounded, know who you are and what you’re about, don’t get lost being things in life or ending up places in life you don’t belong, you would be doing yourself a disservice not to mention others.

Thinking is a good thing, if you’re thinking that means you are trying to get from point A to point B, beginning with a feeling, that you are either trying to get out of, get away from, or overcome, and that could be a down feeling. Raise your hand if you have ever had depression? It’s the worst kind of lethargy that can hit you in life, the ultimate slow down, that you can’t pick yourself up from. No place in life is worth being stuck or feeling stuck. So unstick yourself from those feelings that are bringing you down. Unstick yourself from the feelings that hurt your heart. Unstick yourself from the worry over what things are or are not. And unstick yourself from the thoughts of you being any place else other than your current reality. No one can bring you down in life, but yourself, and if you have to learn this the hard way, then learn it in loneliness, learn in when tired, learn in when frustrated, learn it when angry. Sometimes the worst feelings in life we experience alone, and so be it, ultimately who you are to others once you’ve overcome it all, is to help others out of those feelings that leave them feeling stuck, so get used to it.

What makes people feel stuck? See this is where “gratitude” and “acceptance” come into play. How could one not be happy with where they are, especially coming from a good place, or a good home, with a good education, or a good blog, what could possibly be holding you down in life, worse yet what are you allowing to hold you down in life, and why do you perceive it in that way? According to betterup.com, “It’s a reality that people change over time. Your needs, your wants, and your hopes all evolve …This type of situation can leave you wondering which direction to go in next.” [1] In between phases in life, sometimes people can become restless wanting to know what is going to happen next, or what is planned, or where we are headed, the future trippers, always looking for something to go off of in life, but life isn’t like that, mostly what’s to get done is not written down on a list for you, there are no directions, and nothing is made for you, mostly in life we are left to our own devices, so this will take some getting used to. Some of the most successful people, have started with nothing, and created something from nothing, and that should give you hope that when you feel like you have nothing, similarly you should follow suit, and learn that you have to make things happen for you in life, otherwise life will not happen in the way that you want things to happen for you in life. That’s learning, how to handle a problem, how to get out of a problem, how to negotiate through a problem, how to talk about a problem, how to address others when you have a problem, and how to make things better for yourself and for others when you have a problem. Most problems, need: (1) space (2) time apart (3) to reach a solution, most problems in life require you to take a step back, rethink things, and go over in your head what just happened, what is happening, and what there is to do moving forward. You learn as you go. So if you ever feel lost take a step back, continue to go over what is happening, why its happening, what have you done, what is there to do, know your strengths and weaknesses and go from there. No one can tell you what to do when your mind is in chaos not listening, and everything is too overwhelming to get through in life, and life can be that way, don’t feel like reading, don’t feel like writing, and the feelings just fester and get worse and worse, this is why to be in action, nothing gets better doing nothing. So be proactive, learn when to leave things alone, and don’t give up on yourself, there is always time to be alone, put yourself together, get healthy, and get back out there in life and try again, don’t give up.

Reference:

[1] https://www.betterup.com/blog/feeling-stuck