There is no place for violence, that includes through words too. The other day I was trying to express a frustration and upset over someone threatening me and I realized you know what I sound bad when I’m saying this, how can I say it better. It seems like we get so caught up in our own emotions that we can forget how we sound matters too. Especially if you have been a victim, what are the many ways in which you as a victim sound worse depending on how you are sharing out loud how you are feeling. Is anger okay then when someone is attacking you out of anger. The best solution for dealing with someone else’s anger toward you is to remain calm, this is what law enforcement is for or Attorneys dont waste your sense trying to talk sense into someone trying to fight you. I realized that the more words expressed through me that sound combative the further away from my goal of feeling supported as I go through this were realized, and learned the hard way that that’s not how you talk back to a threat, it only adds fuel to the fire and makes you sound worse.

People who use violence to threaten you, whether in words, or actually carrying through with your attack on you, what are the ways we can defend ourselves without falling victim to such vicious attacks. The best response would be to block someone who is attacking you, then try to move forward with filing a lawsuit to protect yourself, along with getting a police report. To me it seems like the more this person tries to fight me the more he is looking for something bad that I should say to hold something against me or try to expose me as mentally ill. When someone is expressing mental illness toward you, that’s exactly what they are looking for, to hear what you sound like aggravated, and try to get away with or try to justify attacking you, based upon using your graded response against you to not take your feelings into consideration, this is how your pleas get ignored, when you look bad, as a result of someone trying to hurt you, and further exacerbate your pains in life, enabling others to engage in victim blaming of you, saying you deserved it, or looking bad, like you were asking for it.

There can be any number of reasons that people use to justify their attacks on you. So long as you are nice to people, you don’t fight, you let things go, and you move on, there is nothing that anyone can do to harm you. It’s when you engage with a person who is fighting you, when your words are used against you, and that’s what gets exposed is your reaction, and that’s what makes you look bad, and that’s exactly their goal to justify having harmed you, use you to defend themselves, or blame you to defend themselves, or create false claims of being harmed by you. People have to accept their places in life, not everything is friendship love and support, when someone turns on you and threatens you, you don’t have to forgive them, and let people back into your life, who keep hurting you, keep blaming you, and keep seeking to justify themselves. Some people are selfish and only think about themselves. Once you start using me as public figure for your own personal gain while defaming me, is ruining my reputation as a blogger and public figure, by falsely claiming in public, that I deserve to be attacked, or I deserve voices, and once you do that to a person, a person like me can be attacked from all sides and not know where its coming from.