I wish I could date on Bumble to share some examples of the kinds of dates you can get set up for, and how to accomplish being picked, but I’m sure knowing me and seeing the kinds of pictures and faces I make on selfies, can suffice as a good enough example, of what men like, or women for that matter. I don’t wear a lot of makeup, take good care of my health, and usually fit, except for now, after being in treatment gained weight, which is just as disheartening as it would be for anyone else.

Always be nice. Better to stay calm and carry on, and not lose face, or risk sounding loud, or looking bad, or be accused of having a loud voice, stronger than you actually carry as soft spoken. There is no reason to change for anyone, or risk sounding mean back, only devalues you and makes you look bad. If you are a person of principle who does the right thing, and good to others, then pray that no one hurts you for being who you are or talking about mental health, we hope not. Period.

Dating Etiquette Tips:

(1) Be nice.

(2) Be proud.

(3) Don’t expect anything, don’t assume anything.

(4) If you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say it at all.

(5) Don’t lose face, progress, stamina, or risk your life or reputation defending yourself.

(6) It’s okay to take breaks, and end things based on these terms not being met.

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Oh good news, huge fan of the show “Owning Manhattan” just watched the first season, and guess who I found and added on Instagram, who followed me back! Eric Elder @eric.elderr a real estate agent at Serhant! How cool is that. He’s into fitness, I see he has a family, do not DM, and reminds me of someone I used to date Owen McKibbin who is very fit, and used to model and play volleyball, he’s a fitness coach, and someone I talked to when trying to lose weight 2022, encouraged me not to eat at night. He was always very supportive, but as it goes, being me in my life, it was never the right time to date, always so busy working on myself, not always in the best place, and quickly started dating my ex, which ended things with Owen, so that was a sudden change.

Back to dating etiquette, whether that’s messenger, online, you meet online, you date in real life, if its for relationship, or just sex, or just chatting, there is one golden rule to always be nice. It really shouldn’t be about people coming back into your life, that should tell you when you are doing well. It’s more about your ability to move forward, accept amends, and be in a place where you can enjoy the moment with pride, and be proud of who you are with and how far they have come in life, whether with you or without you. Pride is such a huge component of right now, because of everything our Country has gone through in recent years, it seems like we were all shocked, and exposed to the horrors of life all at once, and let’s hope that things die down for good, so that we can share more normal moments, social and apart of.

One of the biggest reasons that I blog, is to help neutralize and help create a normal environment to speak through and if necessary be spoken about (see below on dealing with other subjects), or however that occurs, that offers hope to those who on their own like I was, feels powerless, or wants to do more to help others, that sudden get up and get moving and get active, is the root of all protests, no matter what the issue, along with what donations are about. It’s about getting involved and showing you care, and while there are standard ways of caring like donations, volunteer work, jobs, news outlets, social media, I just don’t think it was any easier when I was off line, whether that was at the beginning, or now rebuilding after feeling defeated after launching mymollydoll.com. There is always time to build again, and to me that’s what maturing and growing up is all about, getting better at what you do, and with experience hopefully take on more responsibilities in life, and the more things you can be held responsible for, the more likely you will be able to help others, with managing the load of losses, and helping to implement changes to help prevent those losses, which includes continuing to allow people to feel arrived, proud, and winning against all odds, not falling apart at the seems.

Dealing with Other Subjects: It doesn’t always have to be crazy stories and upsets and voices or self-harm, or suicide, or breakups, or pen pals, or crime, or OJ, it can be about something else, and that’s the protective component of being online, shielding from the subject that is causing harm or upheaval or faced with known disagreement, hence the term “mymollydoll” based on something helpful without scars or failure, in the true spirit of being in helping mode. I’m sorry if it seems like name dropping, it’s really not about mentioning for attention, had I not been bullied, it would have gone straight from blog to book, and be known as an author, but instead has taken 4 years of recovering from defamation, to get well, and start rebuilding my reputation and blogs online. If my goals were always to write articles and do research and write research papers, then those are good ways to be helpful and write to a caliber that can be appreciated and feel benefited by, learning something. I think when it becomes about names, politics, analytics, OJ, Presidents, Pen Pals, Family, Death, Dying, Suicide, Music, and Film, there are better ways of showing appreciation than to limit your perspective of me as trying to fit in, instead of viewing how I can help by being me, and demonstrating a way to carry yourself in spite of difficulties, that doesn’t frighten the children, worry the family, upset the courts (recently pleased with me), require an attorney, or need to be monitored by the police or FBI, or a Doctor, eventually we should all be okay on our own, and get back to a place where we can see eachother as human and harmless, but until then I thought it was necessary to launch a new campaign “the innocence project” based on being an “IT Girl” online for so long, as for how many things men can be forgiven for, that women are held responsible for, and if that’s how society works, then make sure Im a good example of someone who waits to date, doesn’t have sex, picks and chooses her battles, is successful, a keeper and a good example. Happiness is when you take a look around and you become proud of others in your surroundings, for a brief moment we were all a unit of survivors, going through the same thing, but as reality would have it, the less COVID occurred and the more life resumed, I feel like people forgot to have that same compassion and common purpose for caring about one another’s health. It would be sad to have gone through so much, and for personal issues, civil issues, to come between me and anyone else, or decide to cut me in two, and hand out half my respect to someone else, not credit me for where I am and how far I have come in life, writing online, without using politics and names on a daily basis to describe what Im doing with my life, or what Im going through mentally with voices.

To me “the innocence project” is about people feeling young, happy, apart of, humorous, see the joke in everything, not afraid to be creative or expressive, feel quirky, and mischievous, feel innocent, and maybe that’s what people need, good fun, not mistake good people for criminals, there have been few exceptions of people sued by contenders to the #metoo movement, and that’s not a type of dynamic I wish to have with any person in life, ever, or experience success and be given money, or take on responsibilities as a blogger, and not be trusted, to do the right thing and say the right thing.

Sure we all have wisdom to share, but what it comes down to is that bigger picture, how do you look, what is your worth, what are your cares, what do you resemble, what is your value, and that’s how you either gain followers or lose followers. And Im sure follower count can also be about people being smart, and not having the patience for people, based on expectation of what they want in life, it’s impossible to read everyone’s wants and cares in life, we are only so limited, to working hard and doing our best, not everyone can be responded to at once, change their mind, be heard, be read, or hear something that I have to say, and say you know what I was thinking that.

Maybe that’s a gift to read, and think this is what I sound like too, and maybe sometimes I hope that you learn something either about me, or about life, that makes you more compassionate, more helpful, less reactive, less selfish, less angry, less hostile, and expect less from people just because you think they are wealthy or have the resources to help people on an individual basis, I don’t I have a heart condition, I don’t message anyone anymore, and need to overcome mental health issues. I can’t go on forever not feeling well, or be rattled and made upset, to derail my writing, and then be humiliated online sounding weird, or can’t type or text, if that’s the goal of someone irritating me and hurting me then that’s mental and emotional abuse, and I won’t put up with it, and I refuse to take responsibility for something that someone has done to me, is not the condition that I wish to be in for the rest of my life, poor, or suffering, unsupported, bullied, or sued, is not what being alive is for.