I was reading a book today, reminding us not to compare, describing comparison as a difficult emotion to navigate. She describes “comparison” as “actually a form of judgment, and [that] judgment weakens our attracting power.” [1] So why should we challenge our judgments? Because its about not being brought down by negative feelings about ourselves or others, that’s not how to be proud, that’s not how to be positive, that’s not how to feel good being you, being unhappy for yourself or others, why be jealous? Don’t compare yourself, meaning love yourself just the way you are. Stop worrying, wishing, and fearing, and start doing what you need to do to feel good. No one is going to bring you everything that you need to go on in your day feeling good, that’s something you have to go out there and get, like reading books and blogs, practicing self-care, getting help.

I think about this a lot, coming from where Im coming from, how can I be more appreciative, how can I be more at peace, how can I manage my finances better, how can I be satisfied with how my life is going, and then like anyone else, think about whats holding me back. There are so many things that hold us back from being happy, or working things out and through with where you are at, whether that’s a relationship or a job, what is keeping us from following through. This is up to you to figure out what gets you going, staying motivated, and what keeps you going, staying motivated.

Berstein tells us that “this fear mentality shows up in all of us, especially when we’re on the precipice of something great.” [1] Maybe it s afear of getting hurt again, maybe its not having the confidence to get the job or to date and find the right person, what will make you believe in yourself, so that others will believe in you. Trust your instincts and your gut, telling you what to do when and where, and follow your heart, steer clear of things that bring up difficult emotions, you are not impossible to love or be appreciated in life, so don’t let anyone convince you that its hard to love you or hard to love yourself, these are all the ways, that we set ourselves up for worse in life. Don’t set yourself up for worse in life, work on your self-esteem, learn to not pass judgment, learn how to be happy for others, learn how to be proud of yourself, and learn how to steer clear of toxicity.

Reference:

[1] Book: Super Attractor by Gabrielle Bernstein >>> https://www.amazon.com/s?k=super+attractor+gabrielle+bernstein&adgrpid=1346902308330767&hvadid=84181465305249&hvbmt=be&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=44156&hvnetw=o&hvqmt=e&hvtargid=kwd-84181739517977%3Aloc-190&hydadcr=20399_10331368&tag=mh0b-20&ref=pd_sl_2zo959wbuq_e