Only half of what you do is what people see, the other half is all the blood, sweat, and tears you put into your daily effort to be who you are. Love yourself inside and out even if they don’t. Who are they to judge you for your outward appearance let no one intimidate you by your looks, even the prettiest are more beautiful than the ones who think are pretty, never compare. One persons strength is another persons weakness. Redefine what it means to be hot. What does being hot mean to you?

For so long I’ve not felt pretty constantly comparing myself to others and not loving myself enough. Not to mention not dating. How many of us feel like we are represented by who dates us, I don’t think that’s ever a good reason to date. I don’t even date. I haven’t dated in years, why? Because that’s not what I went to law school for to be represented by another I went to law school to represent myself and to represent those who we don’t hear from and need a voice. 

You need your voice too, you matter, you’re not just someone’s sex toy in life and don’t hold yourself to that standard. You deserve something that makes you feel whole and if that’s what you need to put some lip gloss on and feel good about yourself then do it, otherwise dig deep and think of everyone who cares about you and loves you just the way you are. If others don’t want to hear about it think to yourself why am I doing this to myself if I don’t even feel comfortable talking about this with others. That’s a good sign that you’re not dating for just yourself, that you care what others think and that’s okay too. But don’t let what others think affect your decision making moving forward it’s all about how you feel at the end of the day. So do for you what you wish would be done for others in life and that should set you free from making the choices you think are right vs choices all would be proud of.