The other day I had trouble expressing how I feel about love, dating, and hooking up. Today I’m thinking about how it’s not what you think. What you think sometimes can be the exact opposite of what is true. How many times do we say things we don’t mean but in the heat of the moment express it in a way that others are taken aback.

According to MIT we should instead “ First define the problem, then diagnose its causes, next design possible solutions, and finally decide which is best. And, of course, implement the choice.” [1]

If the problem is not dating then the solution would be to start dating again. If the cause of not dating is feeling like you are being used or put down in life, then what can you do moving forward to make better choices for yourself. What is your worth? What is best is where you are at right now in your life if you’re not ready to date yet that’s okay no one is forcing you to get back out there just yet. Wait until you are feeling good about yourself before you begin to engage with another person in those respects. Everyone feels offended by rejection you aren’t the only one trying your best to be loved and to be loved again.

References:

[1] https://sloanreview.mit.edu/article/decision-making-its-not-what-you-think/