If there is one thing you can learn from me as a blogger, is to approach life with enthusiasm, and to speak highly of yourself, I’m sure that’s the mismatch between selfies and videos and writing, that anyone would wonder about, still finding myself at 37. Not sure how engaging I want to be online just yet. Not totally comfortable teaching or creating a course right now, still studying on udemy, and getting the basics down for life coaching.

So why not to downplay yourself? Have you ever realized how special you are, I mean you found my blog, that’s makes you pretty special, and you have a high tolerance for most of what I go through, real, unreal, sad, reflective, out there. It means you have a good personality and are a caring and compassionate person. It means you want to be more in tune with yourself, and sometimes hearing from another helps you to find your own voice, in the matter, and that’s what my writing is for. I’m not a robot or a motor mouth, I actually don’t talk much in real life, and soft spoken, so a little bit about myself, Im not loud in real life, Im to myself, shy.

What does it mean to be approachable? Well this is a skill that I naturally have, an approachable person, easy to get along with, makes friends easily, so what does that mean about me? When I don’t try Im more likely to be trapped in a world of fear over what could be or what has been, rather than living life, and building a new life for myself, with all new connections and people in my life. I guess that’s what I learned through blogging, that you still get to be yourself, even though you are not among the same people you grew up with. Its hard when everyone moves away, but you learn to live still and be more independent, proactive.

To be approachable, think about what you are saying before you say it. I think I’m a good example of someone who has problems and gets so wrapped up in symptoms and what’s difficult, that I lose my voice and my tone with audience, that’s when I go from a life coach, to someone just talking about their life, which is weird. Why Ive been removing posts, until I sound more like myself, not someone talking about heavy personal matters out loud, unnecessary. This is why to speak highly of yourself, the problem with voices is that if you get caught up in negative judgements, then you will wind up explaining for the negative judgements, and keep circling back to what is heard or said, so you justify and reinforce what you hear, which is hard to grasp and think about, why let your mind get wired to negatives?

So don’t let yourself get wired to negatives in life, think about others while writing, and also remember to think about yourself, how would you read through what you’ve written? Would it help you or would it hurt you to hear what you are explaining for, and in what ways can you say things in a way that’s neutral without giving up your need to also not be made worse looking. Sometimes in understanding others we feel worse about ourselves (that’s forgiving people who hurt you, cordial but doesn’t feel good, and you think you look bad, its an awkward peace, but you’re glad its peaceful and not the way it was, anger towards you). Its like its impossible to help someone else and also feel good, it just depends on who you are talking to and what things look like. Im a good example of someone nice to everyone, and then looks bad based on who they think Im talking to or what the issue or treatment was at me at a different point in time.

Right now Im leaving things open and learning to be professional and welcome people into my life and keep things at a comfortable distance. Dating is another thing, which has been put on hold this whole year (found matches, got texted). Not ready yet, still working on myself, and start working a job before I try to enjoy life, or go out to a bar on a date, or go to dinner, all the fun things in life, I want.