Cooling Off Time Between Fighting and Getting Back to Normal

One of the biggest hurdles to overcoming a fight with someone, is allowing things to cool off for you, them, and your audience. Less is more. As though we could figure this out before we went there we would spare ourselves the time and agony over being so forthcoming with those feelings and emotions. In the end if its something that can be summed up in a few words if anyone is wondering what something is about, don’t waste your days months and years overtalking about something you already overcame a long time ago. That’s just PTSD waiting to happen, all the headaches come flooding back, and upsetting feelings.

Be Careful What You Bring Up If It Cannot Help You or Others

If you did a good job the first time around overcoming something terrible happening to you, it’s because you didn’t allow yourself to get as hurt as you would have been hurt had you talked about it in public. I don’t always think that talking about things in public is helpful. Its like it involves more people, its harder to explain, feels like sides get created, and your more likely to lose support than you are to gain support explaining your side in life. So just don’t go there, do your best to be professional and stay well, if you get sick deal with it no details necessary, and then get back to your old self again in writing, that’s how you win, not by getting sick explaining how you feel. If it happened, and it’s over, then do your best to move forward.

Be Aware Where Everyone Else is At, What’s Past, Accepted, Not Relevant

Recently I’ve struggled with sharing facts and opinion I think necessary with my audience to share my relationships to what is going on, describe where I stand in the middle of something, and sometimes you risk losing your audience, when you compete with a popular opinion of support, or seek to describe an opinion, based on the timing of the recent assassination attempt of former President Trump. So those posts were removed. The best way to be supportive at a time like this, is to figure out how to speak without elevating the issues, to come to mean something else to you and your readers. To me it was weird how I went from crying, to suddenly feeling forced to describe in what way being bullied or my mental health should have anything to do with anything it doesn’t. I have improved and I am doing well, I am not schizophrenic, I am not self-harming, and I’m sober. Sometimes the best way to help is not by sharing personal details or personal struggles those only become excuses for people trying to go against you in life, to associate you to social ills or what is considered to be the problem, or problem in common to any suspect they identify as violent.