Two phrases, seemingly unrelated, but connected, knowing better and doing better. No matter how perfect our lives may seem on the outside, it’s all the internal struggles, that take away from our sense of peace. So what are the rules for thinking? Do we really need to stay positive? An article on medium.com, suggests: “Set a strict filter for what you will allow into your mind and life and never underestimate the impact that things have on your mindset.” [1] Sometimes what we want in life, things like love and happiness, won’t happen for us, if we are complaining, in a negative mindset, being picky, judgmental, or hard on ourselves, it’s almost like in our worst days we pity ourselves, for not having certain qualifying factors in our life for adulthood, that means we’ve made it. Things like a six figure job, a family, a partner, being able to raise kids, are we all bound for the same success in life, or do some of us fail, simply because we are not trying hard enough. And what does it say about us, if we don’t have those things in life, should we be any less social, and not put ourselves out there. It’s almost like you expect to be a certain way to be picked, and not unless you can be that way, do you even try. Also coming to mind, “knowing better,” means we have a sense of moral courage to do the right thing, say the right thing, and behave in an appropriate manner. Just being alive sometimes requires this of you. I think the most common way our sense of morals are tested are in sexual relationships, its like things can go from normal to inappropriate in two seconds, and you really need to think about who you are sharing those moments with in life. The stuff you don’t want to know about everyone, is the stuff that intimacy is made up of knowing about one another. We don’t really want to be up close and personal with that many people. Or do we?
We all hope to get to a place in life when we are feeling good. Feeling good and looking good. You also feel so much pride in your appearance when you are feeling better. So what are ways in which we can feel better about ourselves. Here are a few quick fixes: (1) meditation (2) journaling (3) exercise (4) hygiene and self-care (5) wash your face twice a day everyday, skincare (6) and put on an outfit, buy something new. It’s usually on the days, we stay in our pajamas all day, don’t fix our face, we feel like a sloth, lethargic, can barely look at ourselves in the mirror, and I don’t blame you for staying home and not wanting to go out. But when you start making a habit of living your life that way simply because you’re not feeling up to it, you sell yourself short in life, for the better life you could be living, if you just simply tried. So try! According to medium.com, your morning routine is one of the most important parts of your day, “Start your mornings with positivity, gratitude, and a focus on your biggest goal or aspiration.” [2]
A great quote by Maya Angelou, says: ““Do the best you can until you know better. Then, when you know better, do better.” [3]
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[3] https://advice.theshineapp.com/articles/how-to-practice-doing-better-when-you-know-better/
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