Sometimes you just need to tough it out. Have a thick skin, let it go, and hold your head high. Not let anyone ruffle your feathers. There’s so much energy in the world competing beliefs and opinions to hold and a lot of conflicting views. 

Let’s face it people can be difficult. “To deal with a difficult person, we have to start with ourselves.” It’s how we act that influences how others react to us. [1] Always be in control of your emotions, don’t let others get you bent out of shape. There’s always time to rest and regroup think things over. 

You are who you surround yourself with, so choose people that choose you and go from there. You won’t get along with everyone that doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you. Don’t inherit the problems of others and keep your side of the street clean. Have your own back in life. Learn how to say no and always have good intentions. Honesty is the best policy. Life is tough, and so are you. 

Learn how to build “resilience” to see past things on the surface level and have compassion for yourself and others. Learn how to handle stress by learning skills to be more resilient. [2] “When something goes wrong, do you tend to bounce back or fall apart? When you have resilience, you harness the inner strength that helps you rebound from a setback or challenge,” [3] especially with it comes to dealing with difficulty in relationships and interactions. 

When we focus on managing our own emotions, we take responsibility for our part without blaming others for how we feel, owning up to those feelings and set them aside telling ourselves no I won’t allow this to bother me there’s a better way of responding or reacting. 

Sometimes the circumstances can be so trivial. It’s usually the little things in life that get to us the most, underneath it all lies bigger issues, why we need to have compassion for ourselves and others. 

It’s also helpful to “set boundaries, and practice emotional detachment.” Instead of being frustrated with others learn how to foster more acceptance for others. This enables us to maintain composure and avoid draining our energy or theirs with criticism. [4] The best feedback is positive feedback, be kind no matter the circumstance, you’ll be happy you didn’t overload yourself with the negatives and decided to take a positive spin on things.

[1] 6 Tips for Dealing with a Difficult Person – ACHIEVE

[2] Resilience: Build skills to endure hardship – Mayo Clinic

[3] https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/resilience-training/in-depth/resilience/art-20046311

[4] https://drbcoach.com/accepting-difficult-people-mindset-strategies-for-peaceful-relationships/