I don’t date much, but when I did date in serious relationships I would give it my all, there’s just something about love, the constant gravitation toward who you love, and the sense of stability that it provides. Love can be a great motivator in life, to change and to better yourself. Everything feels more right when in love, it’s like your sense of peace exists in another who upon sharing the company with, everything becomes quiet. Companionship is something I’ve always wanted in life, someone to travel with, do things with, talk with, go to movies with, it’s hard to find that type of relationship these days, but I guess you just have to accept the other kinds of dating, that’s not what everyone wants and needs.

As you get older you learn to expect less, and simply enjoy the company of others. It should feel good just to be around people, no future planning required. I think people feel the most appreciated when you savor the company of others, and upbeat and doing things in life that make you feel proud, that’s what makes others feel proud of you. So if you ever feel like something is missing, don’t fret your single days, months, or years, I waited to date again for years, taking 4 year breaks, taking 5 year breaks. I really actually didn’t invest time in dating, because I’m so sensitive, and the physical attachment through dating is so heartbreaking when things don’t work out, or upon separation, can be depressing. So this is probably why I blog online, it’s one of my constants in life, that although I may not be as social as I want to be and work as many jobs as I should, it’s a place to be in life, where I feel whole, where I have purpose in life, where I can monitor and manage my mental health and make progress.

Life doesn’t need to happen all at once, when you’re ready for it, things will happen for you in life, you don’t need to rush the process. Life is longer than you think, the days are better than you feel, it’s all about appreciating the moment and making the most of your life, and living for the moment, that’s how people feel most appreciated. How are you in the moment of interaction, are you present, do you recognize the feelings of others, are you paying attention to how others are feeling, that’s what makes you a good person, the more awareness you have for others, the more supportive you are, the better you’ll feel being you, and the better others will feel.

So what makes a healthy long term relationship, first of all, are you taking good care of yourself? Are you living life in excess or taking chances, how stable are you? What are your relationships with others like? The more stable you are the more peaceful your relationships will be. People want a finish line in life, they don’t want to have to wait for you, or be disappointed that you have stopped trying hard in life. It’s hard to be in a relationship if you are feeling unmotivated or depressed. Live a life that you want to bring another person into. Live a life that another feels comfortable in, and be a warm person who another feels safe by, and upon confiding in you, doesn’t feel like you are taking them for granted, or someone who would make them feel bad about being them, or what they are going through in life.

It’s not just women who want rings in life who go through a hard time settling down, men etc. go through the same issues, when trying to achieve the best version of themselves. I think all we need is someone to simply love us in this moment, how hard could it be? With everything going on, what else could you want more other than the comfort of the loving arms of someone you admire or cherish time with. Love is not something that can be replaced, although there may be jealousy or competitions in life, accept your places in life, that if someone is going out of their way to spend time with you, that’s because they genuinely care about you and are rooting for you in life. No one wants to see you go downhill in life, get in trouble, face addictions or depression in life, mental health issues are tough, but that doesn’t mean you can’t date or you won’t be loved again.

First of all, find yourself, feel good about yourself, do things in life that make you feel needed, important, professional, continue you education, broaden your horizons, challenge yourself, stay fit. All the things you do for yourself to feel good will pay off when you open the door to new relationships, new friendships, new jobs, and that’s how you create a life for yourself, not by complaining, not by fighting, not by causing waves, not by self-harming, not by giving up.

The more you give up in life the more others will give up on you and that’s a hard lesson to learn in life, that although you care, you can’t expect others to care about you, if you are not taking good care of yourself and stable and feeling good about yourself and what you’re doing in life. This is why as a blogger, not someone who has found stability in paid for positions, it’s a different life but it doesn’t need to be so different out there to give blogging a bad name. I think blogging can be a great job and a career for any writer, who simply needs to get their feet wet self-publishing and learning how to get likes and maintain a following.

It’s a competitive world out there, so the more you know yourself, and what you’re capable of, the less you will feel threatened by any other content out there feel compared. Same goes for dating and relationships, the more confident you are about yourself, the less threatened you will feel about others, or even feel replaced or compared to, this life was meant to be loved, to love yourself, to love what you are doing in life, and to take the day as it comes. It’s not about making a hard life for yourself or others, or having hard feelings. It’s about feeling good about life and feeling good about others, including their happiness, with you, absent you, supporting you, nor around you, everyone has to take care of themselves, you can’t expect all of anyone’s time in life, so be grateful when you do get it.

What’s all of someone’s time, date night, watching movies in bed, and sleeping in the same bed with someone, that just happened 2022 reuniting with my ex, I haven’t had a sleepover with anyone I’ve dated since 2014 or 2015. Simple ways to feel special, be trusted, and experience life with others. Appreciate the little things in life, love doesn’t have to be grand, love doesn’t have to be loud, love should be a feeling inside kept, that makes you feel good, and makes others feel better that you are doing well in life, the feeling is not just for you, it’s for everyone to reach points of stability.

This is why only certain people are trusted for loving relationships, mentorships, training, teaching, therapy, medicine, attorney, friendship. Being a human being is a really sensitive interpersonal job that requires both minds to work in order to interact well together, so don’t be sad on your sad days, don’t be lonely on your lonely days, don’t cry everytime you miss someone, they would want you to be happy and to function, and trust that when people come into your life, they will always know who you are, where you are, and will probably check on you, so the more independent you are, the longer those relationships last for you in life, and don’t become a sore spot for anyone, do well to make those in your life feel good.