If you’re ever worried about missing moments in life don’t stress out, your greatest love is still out there and probably waiting just as long as you have to be loved again. Love is all a matter of what work you put into it, so put work into yourself first! You need to be in a place where you can love and be loved and this will most likely happen when you’re happy and proud of yourself, at ease, and have the time and energy to get to know someone new.

I’ve had my share of heartbreaks but I haven’t given up on the fact that someone out there somewhere loves me or will love me one day. Right now I’m working on myself. So don’t give up hope. You will meet your match one day. It’s all a matter of having that willingness to be loved. After being hurt many times it’s easy to be withdrawn and this really interferes with your ability to be in intimate relationships.

For example “Common reasons why a partner withdraws include betrayal, internal personal conflicts, and the re-emergence of trauma.” [1] So we go through this right … especially with mental health issues that inability to get back center and be present in the moment. If your attention is so divided on things give yourself time to get strong again and get present. Part of building a new relationship requires you to pay attention, be observant, and remember all the little details about them. This helps to build trust and intimacy getting to know one another and feel comfortable.

In addition emotional withdrawal can have a negative impact on a relationship. “According to Emotionally Focused couples Therapy (EFT)*, withdrawal is often a response to emotional disconnection. When partners feel emotionally disconnected, they may withdraw in order to protect themselves from the pain of rejection or abandonment.” [2] So this is common, perhaps a common reason why some relationships quickly burn out. So wait, don’t be in a rush, and play it by ear. Chances are if you’re not feeling that immediate connection either you or your partner are in need of some tender loving care. Warm up to one another, you never know what anyone is going through these feelings and traumas are not limited to just women or men. Get to know each-other first.

References:

[1] https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/rediscovering-love/202205/5-reasons-why-partner-might-withdraw?amp

[2] https://www.heartfeltcounselingmn.com/blog/2023/4/4/how-withdrawl-affects-relationships?format=amp