It’s important when things are not going right for you in life to keep busy, but make effective use of your time. According to psychcentral.com, “Many of us pile on commitment after commitment. We jam-pack our schedules. We keep ourselves busy to avoid painful—or even pleasant—feelings.” [1] For instance, today to deal with the unpleasantries related to my last blog post, am shopping today, when I’m supposed to be working on my dissertation or editing my book, which I plan to do later on today. Don’t procrastinate and feel worse off. Sometimes doing what you’re supposed to be doing is in your best interest to do so, not spend time wasting money or not investing in your future if that’s what you’re worried about. In the positive, “work [can be used] to distract [oneself] from [whats bothering them]. This stops them from [for example] grieving, which is vital for moving forward.” [2] -What makes you feel good? You come first when it comes to coping with depressions and mental health symptoms, are you doing what you’re supposed to be doing, and what could you be doing better to get back on course. Assessing my day, I should be free reading and checking into my course to see what work needs to get done or re-read a chapter from my book and continue editing until I’m left with a finished product I’m proud of. Blogging only seems to work if you’re doing well in life, otherwise it can lead to unnecessary stress related to what people think. Always be confident, if your post is not making you feel confident and throwing off your focus for the day, then it’s probably best to write about something else or in a more general way express yourself. themuse.com reminds bloggers who are getting started, to “work [your] way up to giving out more personal information. But just remember that once something is on the web, it never truly goes away.” -It’s the feeling you leave your readers with that matters, and how you feel after you share what you’re thinking matters too, not all will be in agreement with you and when that happens you lose your following. Why every good day counts toward building a following and for each good day you do have be sure to share what’s working for you to help others who are struggling be able to snap out of a bad day, a bad feeling, or worry. It’s different person to person, not all will find comfort in your words or because you blog trust the process of sharing your story and helping others which works in other forums such as AA. Depending on your trust issues sometimes it’s better to start disclosing first in therapy, then in AA or group therapy, then to your audience blogging, if you’ve not yet discussed what you’re thinking or what’s bothering you with another it’s best not to share without running your thoughts or ideas past someone first.

References:

[1] https://psychcentral.com/blog/are-you-keeping-busy-to-avoid-your-feelings/

[2] Id at 1.

[3] https://www.themuse.com/advice/the-23-unwritten-rules-of-blogging