Never be resistant to the changes you endure throughout the recovery process, whether its from a down, a failed relationship, a mental health issue. Life doesn’t stop the moment you get sober, clean up your act, or breakup, but it stops the moment you stop trying to improve your life, that’s the defeat you encounter, not being where you want to be in life, or not feeling how you want to feel in life. It’s a normal part of life to react and respond to how life changes for you, and the basis for which decisions are made, that affect you in life. Too hard on ourselves, we forget.

Everyone cares to help make things better, what you usually get wrong in life, is where other people are at in terms of their thoughts about you, insecure, we tend to think that people think less of us, than we truly are. That’s just a fact of insecurity, you need affirmations, you need permissions, you need encouragement, you need support, and no matter what your age is or socioeconomic status, at some point in your life, you will need people or someone to help you. Most are concerned for themselves, until you call for their attention, so make sure to do sparingly, and in the event that it’s a better idea for others to focus on themselves, be sure to update them on your progress, no need to do anything twice over, if you can fix you, then they don’t have to.

Always think that change is a good thing, whether we see it, apart of it, or it flies overhead, change is occurring around us, most not keeping track, but in case you fail in any moment in life with too much time on your hands, and wind up thinking too much about life, know that there have been others like you, who eventually moved on to do other things in life, other than think about life. Change is not an easy process, if you are correcting a difference or a difficulty in accepting or comprehending the issues of others, most people think that everyone should be the way they are, and they seem like they don’t care that you are not that way too. Life is not a game of things should be this way or that way, it should only be in a way, that all can understand, and/or be apart of without feeling sick about who is in their company. That would be a good space to arrive to in life, it should not even matter who is beside you, that would be equality.

Always keep in mind, that what everyone thinks matters, and we don’t all have to be the same, we don’t all have to know each other, we don’t all have to respect each other, think of one another, admire one another, but we do have to live life as though everyone matters around us.

Pay attention, and don’t miss out on other ways of life, when you can let your defenses down, and be liked and also like people back, shouldn’t be a hard feat, or personal. When things get personal, what is your problem becomes your problem and not theirs, that’s simple to co-existing, when two sides do not want to be each other or know each other or embody one another, then those people will not be together or get along, just like people don’t match, and don’t have sex with each other, some people you don’t want to do things with, and that’s just life, so accept those hard facts about life to, by terminology people define what’s in their best interests and make choices, so be a good experience.

It’s not an easy process, and sometimes to figure out who you are, what your gifts and talents are in life, to love yourself, you have to let go of what other people think, and not worry too much about what you look like. You will change, you will bloom, you will endure hardships, and life can be shocking and at times abrasive how could these things happen to you, what is causing you to feel this way, what do you sound like, in the end what you have to say, is an intended description of what is carried within, and ultimately only you can change that about yourself, no one can change you, no matter how much they try to manipulate you, usually for reaction, no matter by what they are concerned is impressed upon you, ultimately who you are and what you look like is up to you, so its always a good time to start caring for yourself. The more you change, the more they’ll wonder.

Have you ever found yourself in a position where you are taken away from your present? If yes, then this is for you. Sometimes we get carried away in life, in other things, whether that be on social media, working hard at work, going out at night and around people, sometimes life happens and you have to pay attention for the moments that matter, those will wind up being the moments that define you or establish your reputation in life. You feel as you are, and you will feel as well as you are capable of making others feel, that is your value as a person, to feel well, and help others to also. I don’t think this is just a women’s issue. I think a lot of people struggle with being of value and going through periods of assessment and rejections in life. We all have to meet people, apply for jobs, have conversations, make friends, date, and be known in some way online on some platform somewhere that suits our interests. It’s what do you want to do in life? Who do you want to be in life? Who do you think you are? What do you have to lose? What is your personal worth? These are all questions to ask yourself, and to remind yourself of when the going gets tough, who can know you better than yourself, so it will be you that will have to remind yourself, or where you are headed and what you want in life, don’t waste time allowing other people to decide that for you. You might not be able to explain to people how you are feeling, and they might not be able to help you or understand what you are going though, that doesn’t mean that your social media experience online, overwhelm, fears, and intensity that you feel to simply participate isn’t a real commitment and responsibility in life, it is, it’s your life, and the life of others in reviewing your life, make it matter.

Living a fulfilling life with some blessings and a lot of shortcomings, I have endured the best and the worst of circumstances, sometimes viewed as my fault, and sometimes not by the fault of anyone, simple miscommunications in life, and lack of chemistry. It’s okay to be misunderstood, you will be you today, tomorrow, and the next day, and it is no one’s fault who you are in the end, no matter what you experience in life, you will be left with all the memories and all the things about you in life, that you should be able to recognize what parts of you to keep, and which parts of you to change, or improve upon. I was overwhelmed to learn one of the most valuable lesson of life: That life is as good as you make it out to be, so don’t forget how things were, or the good moments, they will surely leave your mind stuck in any rut in life. You know it might not be your fault, but it doesn’t have to be your problem, or change you either, an attitude adjustment, a behavior quirk, and manneurism, and face, you put you on display, you can be anyone you want to be in life, believe in that challenge. Life is not all golds and glitters, or rooted and mapped course by course in life, when school ends you become in charge of your own curriculum so choose wisely what you allow yourself to think of, what shapes you makes you in life. Be vigilant of those who matter, and mindful of adult subjects and other differences that you wouldn’t want anyone who cant separate from themselves, be stuck thinking about in life, a non-issue, or a man-made problem.

Your ultimate destination in life is what you dream of in life, and although you might not get there in life, everything you are doing now up until that point in life when you may try for things in life, will determine whether you make it to where you want to be in life, or whether you fall short. With mental health issues, it’s hard to leave the life of not being well, and go back to living life, it’s almost as if you can’t let go of how difficult that was, but if you want to have a new life, you’ll have to stop talking about the past so much, if you want your future to happen. You can’t go on reliving the same pains over and over again, there is no rhyme or reason to things failing in life, it is just apart of life, by whatever coordinates and faiths people carry, and by whatever baggage is on their backs, some make it to the same places in life, in one piece, ready to begin again, so be one of those people. It’s a bumpy road with narrow turns, have you ever wondered what are you supposed to do in such times? You have to roll down the window and let the wind hug you! Embrace reality, in the end is what people want.

In all acceptance, life is a beautiful journey until it is abruptly stopped by criticism, or woken up to insult, by the time your head hurts, it shouldn’t matter what was said, all that matters is what you have to say, can you reflect on life, with memory of the positive, and ultimately the lessons taught you physically as a human being are the changes to cause you to appear guilty, or holding a value or belief that runs contrary to what others think, don’t let disability happen to you, be misunderstood. The greatest obstacle and your biggest defeats in life, will be when you give your power away, and when you allow yourself to be brought under the direction of another, although life may not turn out how you hoped things will be, if you want to influence life for the better, you will have to go against the grain of the circumstances others stand back from, its not your job to get involved and to fix life as life is known to others.

 It may take you many years to amount to any person of value, it’s worth the effort if you can muster up the courage to be a working professional, maybe you won’t be just like anyone else, or take on a managing role, but you were built for something in life, so consider the future of your own making, it’s good to believe in yourself.

Anytime you feel stopped, disabled, confused, hurt, or disjointed, understand that life happens to you as you live life, and its in your control, what you allow to hurt you and get to you in life, there are many ways you can be hurt in life, none of which you will be able to prove, see, comprehend, and get evidence of, and that’s life, in life you are watched, you live life and see others, and although you wont notice others, when you change is the concern with being known, and not all learn this lesson the easy way.

You can be up one moment and down the next, don’t give up is the concern with people at the highest of heights, who have fallen to the lowest of lows, where you belong in life, isn’t stuck in any system, of losing everything, or being found undeserving of a wellness that each one earns in their own good time. It’s not the moments you remember in life that are special, its what you remember about yourself that’s special that will ultimately be needed to be shown, in the end. People don’t want to be talked about, people want to remembered by you in the positive, that’s the basis for most social interactions, it’s when you become unimportant, how do you respond when everyone else feels special meeting you, what will it take for you to feel special, and feel better.   

Life doesn’t hit anyone hard in life randomly, there will be signs, opportunities, chances, and options, there will be disappointments, there will be frustrations, there will be concern, there will be moments of not knowing what to do in life, only you can assemble yourself to the best of your ability, and have faith that everything else will solve itself, once you are able to help others, and fix yourself in time because you are needed, and because you want to help.

The times when youre missing, is a good moment in time, it means although you are in a different place in life, its to allow for others to have a different shared experience of life and reality, that is not affected by what’s happening to you in life. No one belongs anywhere in life, told, nothing is humorous about repetition of issues, all losses occur when you least expect it, when things are going well for you, and that’s how you lose people in life, sometimes it takes confusing your reality and making you sick, for you to figure out and fix what the issue is, and the space between you and others in life, its not a space created, it’s a space you either understand, or you cant comprehend being you in life.  

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