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Pick and Choose Your Battles in Life …

We can’t all be warriors when it comes to standing our ground, eventually, being hard on others wears on us, and begins to take its toll. If you recognize these patterns of behavior causing you mood disordered states, such as trying to control people or situations, then you wind up saving yourself that much more heartache in the long run, being placed in the wrong, for being overly emotional, or overreacting to instances you believe you are in the right. Don’t get carried away with your beliefs, know that sometimes our thinking can get the best of us, and sometimes we can be wrong, never assume anyone or anything is out to get you in life, or that things are being plotted against your happiness in life, such selfish thinking is the type of thinking that usually leaves you feeling less than, and that loss of control you feel, is what stops you from being in action and doing things for yourself to keep you moving forward in life. If you’re worrying about it, you’re not moving forward from it, and if you’re allowing something to bother you, you are doing yourself and others a disservice not being at peace within yourself. In the wise words of C. JoyBell C., “It’s not winning battles that makes you happy, but it’s how many times you turned away and chose to look into a better direction. Life is too short to spend it on warring.” [1] Sometimes it helps to “take a step back and look at the big picture.” [2] What are the long term and short term risks of fighting. Bearing resentments results in negative thinking and even worse, khaleejtimes.com states that “Grudges, like all things that trigger stress, are eventually destructive to our bodies as well as our minds.” [3] According to entrepreneur.com in order to overcome resentments and negative thinking, “If you want to change your circumstances, you need to change the way you think. You have to stop believing that you are stuck in your situation and passively accepting that you’re incapable of doing anything about it.” [4] The worst thing you can do is to accept your condition as normal and allow “negative thoughts to take hold” -don’t do that to yourself. [5] Especially if its about something that’s happened in the past, how often do we find ourselves upset about something that’s happened a long time ago, focus on the present, not what happened in high school, not what happened in college, and not what happened at the bars, what is happening for you right now, what can you be proud of, and center your thoughts around positives. “Negative thinking is often centered around thoughts about the past that are upsetting, hurtful or disappointing, or around anxiety or apprehension about something that we believe will happen in the future.” [6] So stay positive, I hope that you break free of your negative thinking, and begin to “exud[e] the kind of positive energy that makes people want to gravitate toward you” again in life! [7]

 

References:

 

[1] https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/469248-choose-your-battles-wisely-after-all-life-isn-t-measured-by

 

[2] https://www.forbes.com/sites/sallypercy/2018/08/07/how-to-pick-your-battles-four-key-questions-to-ask/#4fa7effc3f56

 

[3] https://www.khaleejtimes.com/lifestyle/health-fitness/the-negative-impact-of-bearing-a-grudge

 

[4] – [7]  https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/333296

 

 

 

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