Even if no one respects yourself respect yourself enough to not behave in private in any way that if the world were watching you’d want them to think of you any differently. Part of feeling good and loving life is feeling good about yourself one of two equal parts to feeling loved. If what you love isn’t making you feel loved then that means it’s time to focus on something that gives back in one of two equal parts to what’s missing from your life. You can give and give and give your undivided attention and focus to those in need of love and when your time and attention gets divided let the best shine, either you flounder once separated from what you’ve been giving your heart to, or the other flounders upon you giving your heart (time and attention) to something that rewards you such as writing, or finishing my dissertation, or applying for jobs and preparing for interviews, all of which has been interfered with. Anyone who loves you will respect your space, that is your time and attention away from them upon matters or people who matter to you, thats not focusing in life irrespective of the needs of others, to each his own, everyone’s entitled to at least some respect and careful time and attention paid to their own lives as lived, and to those around them, to whom they speak to on a daily basis (their audience). Don’t judge someone simply because of the way the speak, or present themselves around you specifically put them down in life, every interaction is a new interaction, just like every person requires a new impression be made, our lives are not solely composed anymore of just who lived among, there are now others, who’s interests supersede your own needs in life, especially as a writer, a model, or a lover or a friend, anyone selfish who does not respect the peace within those relationships only cares about themselves without regard for the harm they are causing to all other relationships having hurt you embarrassed you or caused you stress emotionally and physically when faced with public opinion a new opinion of them as trash ie me. In relationships, be human in your responses or concerns with regards to trust issues, choosing benefit of the doubt over attack, if you don’t see the good in someone then don’t claim to love them then it’s not love guiding your intuitions about them it’s your own ego and need to be right a matter of control and power over predictions that empowers you to see a life living before you which can easily be destroyed at your behest. When one is not themselves happy with themselves it’s hard for one to be happy for another and vice versa, the exchange of love is most adequately centered on whether one when focusing on the other makes the other feel whole or better thats a gift in life not to be tampered with the gift of healing worries, consoling differences, making sense to one another, and feeling bonded in that knowledge of how one has affected the other for the better.